Education & Career Trends: July 20
Curated by the Knowledge Team of ICS Career GPS
- Excerpts are taken from an article published on psychologytoday.com.
We often use the word “lazy” as a broad umbrella term to describe someone who is unwilling to perform certain tasks or duties. What we then fail to acknowledge, however, are the actual reasons why someone is unwilling in the first place. We ignore the many facets and causes of behaviour and simply reduce a person to the label of “lazy.”
If we were to dig deeper, we might learn that our unwillingness to perform certain tasks or duties might be fueled by…
- Buying into a deep-seated fear of uncertainty.
- Entanglement with a recurring worry over the future.
- Adopting a sense of “not being good enough.”
- Experiencing a lack of values clarity.
- A self-objectifying and overly demanding schedule, always filled to the brim.
- Poor quality of sleep at night.
- A lack of close and supportive relationships.
- A diet high in sugar and saturated fats.
…and many other such factors.
There are many potential sources of why we do the things we do, including why we sometimes lack motivation.
There is simply no one-size-fits-all way to understand motivation. You are an individual and to move ahead you will need to be more curious about why.
Step 1: Look at What Drives Your Motivation
Unfortunately, the answers your mind gives you about your own behaviour are often false or useless. For this reason, the first step in overcoming “laziness” (i.e., unwillingness) is to observe yourself more clearly. You need to notice how your engagement ebbs and flows and the situations that impact it. This may sound simple enough, and yet it’s far from it because our minds are surprisingly bad at knowing why we do the things we do. Research has shown that the vast majority of our choices are driven by influences that go beyond the simple rule-based formulae we carry in our heads.
Fortunately, you do not need to be aware of every factor that is driving your behaviour – only of the ones that matter most – and you yourself can collect much of the information you need.
Start this refinement with a bit of introspection. First, rate your own level of motivation on a scale from one to ten (1 = having no motivation at all; 10 = being the most motivated you can be). Next, take a moment to think of a time when you felt more motivated than that. Now ask yourself, what was different back then? Write down whatever comes to mind that may have played a role. If in doubt, write it out. This is not about accuracy, but about capturing ideas. Your brainstorming might look like this:
Step 2: Do Something Different for a Week and Track What Happens
Not everything you have written down will be relevant, so the next step is to get more meticulous. Choose one factor that you think might be likely to influence your motivation; ideally, one you have some level of control over, like getting good sleep.
Then, write down ideas about what you could do to change this one factor for the better. For instance, if you struggle with a good quality of sleep, you could get to bed earlier, buy a sleeping mask, stop eating late at night, defuse worrying thoughts, etc. This is yet another occasion where a therapist can be invaluable, because they can point you toward effective strategies, and how to properly apply them.
Now pick one of the strategies you have written down, and actually make a change.
Step 3: Step Back, Reflect, and Try Again
After you have implemented the change for a week, it’s time to reflect: Did your change have the intended effect? If nothing happened, that’s less great but still good because you learned something.
The truth is that improving any area of your life will likely involve trial-and-error experimentation. What works for you may be nothing like what works for someone else. Some strategies may be helpful, and others not so much. And it’s hard to tell which is which until after you have given them a try. Furthermore, things that have helped you before can become ineffective—or the other way around. That means that learning how to move ahead is not a matter of “one and done,” but a continuous process. What may have been true years ago may not be true anymore.
You need to:
a) become aware of the shifting demands of your current life situation, and
b) adapt to them accordingly.
This requires practice and patience. It means a continuous process of learning to become more self-aware, noticing how your choices—both small and big—affect your life on a day-to-day basis.
The tricky part of “lazy” is that it tells you that you have to start from somewhere else than where you are. Being genuinely curious about yourself will help you be more compassionate about where you are. If you are struggling with being engaged, it is because real factors are affecting you in very real ways.
There is no such thing as “being lazy.” Find out how engagement works for you; it always goes a layer deeper.
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Have you checked out yesterday’s blog yet?
Efficient Ways to Avoid Academic Burnout
(Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in the article mentioned above are those of the author(s). They do not purport to reflect the opinions or views of ICS Career GPS or its staff.)
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